crosspost from tumblr @ thaliendir .
not to get too in depth , but like … have very different perspective on NDE than others , and think one big part of that is plurality plain and simple .

faeries do not necessarily abide by any human expectations of gender and sex . of course , olden stories might play up importance of these things , as that was what human society place importance on . likewise , some faeries take on pretenses of these things as performance to appease or toy with humans - or take these basic ideas just to twist beyond recognition for plain and simple fun .

truthfully , traits of sexes can come in number of mixes and expressions . and that is not just faerie thing , this is very much human , animal kingdom , and beyond . sure , there can be predominant clusters of these traits , but that is not end by any means - that is only start .

unfortunately , fair amount of people do not recognise this , do not want to recognise this . ultra rarity , medical anomaly , something to gawk at . often see this as porn tropes , refusal of existence and autonomy , or requests for personal , intimate information just to satiate curiosity .

these attitudes major contributor to why kossai dance around labels , but ... honestly come to realise that tired of this , for as much as also tired of these attitudes and wish to escape . want this world to be one where no one label sex to start with , let alone whether within binary or not - but right now , still have to deal with effects of world that demand this , and only so much anyone can do to avoid .

on one hand , kossai do not feel need to consider body as intersex , regardless of human standards which say so - more important to know what feel happy and true to heart , rather than what kossai " is " . but on other hand , can get so tired to hide stories and perspectives just for frustrations of how others act , have to just silently watch as these things go by - and equally , nice to have labels and spaces that can give some safe ground back .

that all said , still have no intent to give anyone intimate details , not for any reason . kossai say this not to be spectacle for others , but to try and find some of that safety - and if not find , then make . try to pretend for long while now that feel fine with seek safety through silence and avoidance , but honestly not .

so what should this change ? nothing much - was probably not very hard to assume this anyway . but even if not directly part of this blog , hope to at least carve out something more comfortable , and to show some of that comfort for others .should break down these walls for everyone's sake .

crosspost from tumblr .
kossai grow up with paganism - sort of eclectic mix of things . learn about faeries and changelings , past lives , magic , and overall delve into culture and ideas that christians try to kill . still , that did not mean faeriehood come with one nice and easy path to follow .

under cut for length . not just about physical nonhumanity , but expect experiences will be particularly familiar there .